Addressing envelopes is the last step before your invitations go in the mail, and it is often where couples get stuck. Who goes first? Do kids get named? What about a plus-one? Here is a simple guide to US envelope etiquette.
The golden rule
The names on the envelope tell guests exactly who is invited. If a name isn’t on the envelope, that person isn’t invited. This is the clearest, kindest way to handle adults-only weddings and plus-ones.
Married couples
- Traditional: Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
- Modern: Mr. John Smith and Mrs. Emily Smith, or Emily and John Smith
- Different last names: Ms. Emily Jones and Mr. John Smith, written on one line if it fits
- Same-sex couples: Mr. David Lee and Mr. Michael Lee, or Ms. Sarah Brown and Ms. Anna Brown
When the names are listed separately, you can put whoever you know best first.
Unmarried couples living together
Write each name on its own line, in alphabetical order or with the person you know best first.
Ms. Rachel Adams Mr. Tom Baker
Single guests
Use their title and full name: Ms. Jessica Taylor or Mr. Daniel Green. If you are offering a plus-one, add “and Guest” on the inner envelope or on the same line.
Families with children
List the parents on the first line and the children below them, oldest to youngest.
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith Ava, Leo and Mia
You can also write “The Smith Family,” which tells guests the whole household is welcome.
Professional and military titles
Use titles like Dr., The Honorable or military ranks when you know them. For two doctors, you can write “The Doctors Smith” or “Dr. Emily Smith and Dr. John Smith.”
Inner and outer envelopes
Some formal suites use two envelopes. The outer envelope has the full formal names and address. The inner envelope is more personal, using titles and last names only, or first names for close family.
Return address
Put your return address on the back flap. Use the address of whoever is collecting the RSVPs.
Make it easier on yourself
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Quick tips
- Spell out “Street,” “Avenue” and state names on formal envelopes.
- Double-check every spelling. Names matter more than anything else on the envelope.
- Keep a spreadsheet of names and addresses. You’ll use it again for thank-you cards.
- Order a few extra envelopes for mistakes.
Once your envelopes are addressed, take one complete invitation to the post office to have it weighed. Heavier paper, square envelopes and wax seals can all need extra postage.